Season 1 Ep 2: Overcoming Self-sabotage: Breaking Through Limiting Beliefs
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[00:00:00] Hey, so welcome back to Baseline and Boundaries, A Mindset Revolution with Dr. Tamika Scott. And that's me. I'm your host, ,
so today we're gonna talk about something that shows up for many of us in a variety of different spaces. So I would like to welcome self sabotage into the room. Let's welcome him. I don't know why to him. It could be a her or it could be a they. It really doesn't matter. Self-sabotage is here. All right, so let's go ahead and acknowledge and name it.
You say you want more visibility, more impact, more alignment, but when the opportunity shows up, you shrink or you overthink or you delay your response, you even ghost your own goals. Like that's the thing. And that my friend is self-sabotage.
And listen, it's not about blaming. I. Have done it and do it. Um, not on a regular, [00:01:00] because I've learned to check it, but it happens. It's about having awareness that self-sabotage is in the room. Self-sabotage isn't a personality flaw, it's a protective pattern. It's your brain saying, let's play it safe, even when safe is keeping you actually stuck.
And you already know how I feel about the aspect of feeling stuck and being stuck. So what I wanna do is I want you to think about where self-sabotage is quietly operating in your life. You are saying yes to things that you don't wanna do to avoid disappointing others. Is that you or are you talking.
Yourself out of applying, huh? Let's say to a new role because you are not ready yet? Or are you avoiding visibility deep down because you're afraid of judgment or failure? [00:02:00] Well, I've definitely been there. I know what that's like. So in today's episode, I wanna walk us through three of the most common ways I have seen self-sabotage show up for my clients and leaders throughout the world, and how we can begin to break through some of those limiting beliefs.
So the first one is the perfection loop. Does that sound familiar? It's you waiting until something is flawless. Before you act, you're constantly tweaking and proving, doubting yourself, but perfection is the moving target. Your progress gets paralyzed when you're always trying to get it right again.
Perfection doesn't truly exist, so you're aiming. At a target that has no end, and then we have the imposter reflex. You accomplish big things, but you [00:03:00] still feel like you're a fraud. I'm raising my hand right now because that is so. My story in many spaces when I say I'm Dr. Tamika Scott, or when I first got my degree, or when I got my first opportunity to sit at a C-suite position, um, we find ourselves downplaying our success and you give your credit away.
You believe that compliments are performative, they're not sincere. And the third one is the comparison trap. You measure your worth against someone else's, a highlight real social media post, you minimize your brilliance because someone else seems further along. Again, it's a filtered version in most time and most, most of the time.
Um, these are three of the most compelling. Mindset traps or that mind drama that we've talked about. They're not facts. [00:04:00] And if you're a client of mine, then you know, I'm always asking the question, what evidence do you have to support that thought? And typically what we know is that you don't have such evidence.
And that's why I want you to know that you don't have to believe that you're stuck. You're not stuck in this mindset trap.
There's a shift that I want you to make, and it can be made easily. So instead of asking what's wrong with me, try asking what am I protecting myself from? Or what am I truly afraid of? So these type of questions that can change everything. Because often self-sabotage is really just self-protection, dressed up in professionalism.
So what I want you to do this week or maybe next, whenever you have a free moment, when to notice when a [00:05:00] limiting belief comes up, I want you to pause and I want you to ask yourself, is this belief true or is it just familiar? And then I want you to ask, what would I do if I fully believed I belonged here?
Or what would I do if I already knew it already worked out? Mind blowing. That's the work y'all. That's how we address self-sabotage.
Well, that's all I have for you today. Um, I'll see you the next episode, where I wanna talk a little bit more about this ideal around compliments and our self-worth and why we might be rejecting the very affirmations that we're craving. Nevertheless, until then, remember, you are not here to be shrinking.
You are here to be living the best version of you living your best life.
All right. Until then, [00:06:00] see you next time.
