Season 1 Ep 3: Redefining Self Worth: How to Trust in the Sincerity of Compliments
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Hello, beautiful people and welcome back to Baseline and Boundaries, A Mindset Revolution. I am your host, Dr. Tamika Scott. Today we're gonna talk about something a lot of leaders wrestle with quietly.
And that's receiving compliments. So let me ask you, when someone says you're doing an amazing job, do you believe them or do you brush it off, respond with, oh, it was nothing.
Or secretly think, oh, they're just being nice. Well, in this episode, we're gonna redefine self-worth and talk about how learning to trust and sincerity of a compliment. Is definitely a leadership powerhouse. Let's go.
So let me tee up this session for us. I had a session with a client [00:01:00] recently and she came to me wanting to feel more visible and more valuable in her leadership spaces. And we explored it and then I realized that she was visible. She was very valuable. Her peers and her senior leaders, and even folks outside of her department and organization were constantly affirming her.
They would be saying things like, that presentation was amazing. You are such an asset to the company. Wow. The way you explained things. Priceless. You're always bringing the room back to strategy. I love it. Or you have such great insight. Can you come share that with my team? All of this different type of affirmation.
But my client, she wasn't believing it. She completely dismissed it. [00:02:00] Yeah, every time I brought it up as it was being some form of fake compliment and people just being nice, or they're just trying to make her feel good, and I get it. I totally get it. Especially as a black woman in these streets, we've been conditioned to question praise, to not get too comfortable, make sure we stay humble.
But I wanna be the first to tell you that humility isn't the same as shrinking and rejecting compliments. Well, that's a form of quiet sabotage. So here's what I told her that I think you should hear. If someone is courageous enough to affirm your amazingness or your brilliance, the least you can do. Is me them with the belief?
No, doubt attached because [00:03:00] what if they meant it? What if you really are the leader? They say you are. What if they really say that you're amazing because you are freaking amazing? And what if your next level doesn't actually require you to do or be more, but to see yourself differently? So I want you to try this the next time someone gives you a compliment, pause, take a breath and say thank you.
That's it. No minimizing, no dimming, no explaining. Just pure grab, just pure gratitude and then write it down. Create what I like to call a confidential file. It's a space to collect these reflections of who you already are, because self-worth isn't built in isolation. It's mirrored back to us in community.
Sorry. [00:04:00] You deserve to see yourself in the way that others really do see you. That's the work. So let's do something different. The next episode, I wanna talk more about how we break up with our negative thoughts. Until then, remember, you're not here to shrink. You are here to see things differently so that you can do things differently. See you next time.
