Season 2 Ep 2: Let Them: Release the Need to Control and Return to Your Peace
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[00:00:00] Hey, you are listening to Baseline and Boundaries, the Mindset Revolution, and in this season we're hitting the reset. I'm Dr. Tamika Scott, your executive mindset coach, entrepreneur, and your go-to for real talk on what it actually takes. To lead with confidence, clarity, and calmness in every room you step into.
So if you are out here doing everything right, but still feel stuck sometimes in self-doubt, second guessing, or maybe just straight up tired while this season is for you, let's reset our mindsets and reclaim our power because the person you are becoming deserves it. Let's go.
Hey, you know you're not here to fix how everyone experiences you. You're here to lead with [00:01:00] integrity, to show up in your fullness, and most importantly, protect your peace. Today we are diving into the concept that has been quietly freeing so many people.
That's Mel Robbins. Let them theory. If you haven't gotten that book, you need to get it now. If you haven't heard of it, don't worry. You'll get a glimpse of what you need to know in this episode about the book, but more importantly, you'll hear how it applies to you, especially if you've been overthinking people, pleasing or holding your tongue in rooms and spaces.
Not only were you born to lead in, but you are supposed to be in, so let's go ahead and get into it. All right, so here's the simple version. If people want to think something about you, let them, if they wanna leave you out, let them, if [00:02:00] they want to, misinterpret or misunderstand your boundaries, let them. The core of this theory isn't about being passive. It's about stopping the mental. Drama, as I like to call it, or the mental gymnastics we perform in trying to manage how others perceive us.
It is the perfect example of a mindset reset. It's an invitation to return to our own emotional center instead of chasing approval. Now, as a black woman who is out here leading and doing all the amazing things that I'm doing, I know how layered that can be. Because we've been taught to anticipate others' needs to fix it, to soften it, to explain it.
But my friend, that is not your assignment in these streets in 2025,
if you are listening to this podcast, you are [00:03:00] probably someone who takes pride in being dependable. Thoughtful, prepared for many of my folks, overly educated. You've done the work, you lead with excellence. But let me ask you this, have you ever found yourself shrinking in a meeting just to keep the peace?
Have you ever over explained a decision that you were already confident about? Have you ever caught yourself spiraling after someone didn't get you?
If you're nodding your head, I see you and I want to remind you that emotional labor, that's mental overcorrection and it's exhausting and it's unnecessary.
But if they wanna doubt you, let them. If they want to critique who you are or your [00:04:00] leadership style, let them. What matters is how you show up when no one is clapping. That's the true measure of confidence. It's not about perfection. It's about inner alignment,
so you don't need to fight for your boundaries to be honored. Let me say that again, probably for myself. You don't need to argue people into respecting you
when you embody the let them mindset. What you're already doing is redirecting your power. So instead of chasing clarity from them, you create clarity within yourself. And when that inner clarity is strong, my friend, baby, you move differently. You stop editing your voice to sound more digestible. You stop volunteering for [00:05:00] emotional cleanup duty.
You stop trying to prove your value in rooms you've already earned the right to be in. I need to say that one more time for myself. You stop trying to prove your value in rooms you've already earned the right to be in. Let me bring this home with a reset that you can carry into your week. Whenever you feel yourself spiraling about what they said, what they didn't say, or how they looked at you, pause and ask, is this my responsibility or is this a moment to let them FM because your piece matters more than their perception.
And the more often you practice this, the less space their opinion takes up in your mind.
You get to lead boldly [00:06:00] without guilt. You get to lead boldly without guilt, without apology,
so you don't need permission to reclaim your peace. You just need a moment of clarity and the courage to let it go. If this episode hit home, make sure to download my free mindset reset kit if you have not already, and take the step-by-step guide as an opportunity to quiet the noise and lead with clarity.
You can grab it in the link in the show notes. And don't forget to subscribe. Share this episode with someone else who needs to hear it and feel free to leave a review. It helps
More fierce, brilliant, mind like you find this space. Until next time, keep resetting. And keep rising and keep showing up you.
Until [00:07:00] then, until the next episode, let them why, because we're onto the next one. Okay, y'all. That's a wrap for today's reset. If this episode gave you something to think about, feel or act on, then share it with a powerful person in your circle. If you want more, grab that reset kit if you haven't already. That's definitely your first step to leading with less self-doubt and more power.
The link is in the show note. And if you are ready for even more, the Confidence Reset Program, I've got a spot just for you. Until next time, lead boldly, rest, often drink plenty of water because you're worth it. This is Baseline and Boundaries, A Mindset Revolution with Dr. Tamika Scott.
